Time is a great healer but just not great enough

Before we get started, this is not a pitty party, I don’t want people to feel sorry for me. This blog is going to share more with you guys than I ever expected to. I would like to think that sharing my story will make a bigger difference and get my very important message across.

14! That’s right 14 years ago I was involved in a car crash, yes crash sounds harsh but it wasn’t an accident so it will not be called that. One of my best friends in the entire world was killed by a drunk driver, gory details you don’t need and if you want to read the tabloids google is your place. I survived without any injuries yet my friend was taken away from us, now for this I feel incredible guilty. I know this isn’t how life works but what if I could have taken some of his injuries and we both stayed here just a little worse for ware?
A whole community, family and friendship group were torn apart. I’ve been left with horrible Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, I don’t label myself with it, I’m better at dealing with it and over time have learnt to open up to others. Having to explain to a court, his family, other friends and all of my own what had happened broke me and I will suffer for the rest of my entire life as a result.

and here comes my point

DRINK DRIVING TURNS YOU INTO A MURDER WEAPON. That’s the harsh reality for all of you out there, what happened to me was not an accident, you don’t accidentally get into a car, drunk and drive home knowing that you could kill someone.

🟠 Even very small amounts of alcohol can significantly slow reaction times and therefore increase the risk of crashing. An estimated 65 road deaths per year are caused by drivers who are under the drink-drive limit(80mg/100mg in England and Wales, 50mg/100mg in Scotland), but have a significant amount of alcohol in their blood. It’s always advised to stay away from alcohol entirely, if driving.

🟠 The average person arrested for driving under the influence has done so 80 times before his or her first arrest

🟠 On average 3,000 people are killed or seriously injured each year in drink drive collisions.

🟠 Someone who is convicted of death by dangerous driving starts their driving ban on the day that they are sentenced. This is something I really struggled to come to terms with, seven years in prison with a three year driving ban for taking someone’s life? So the day someone who has been convicted gets out of prison they are back on our roads putting more families at risk.

I beg you, if you’re reading this and have drunk and driven in the past then let that be a lesson to yourself, be ashamed and vow to never do it again. Spread the word, family friends and all over socials #drinkdrivingruinslives

How I deal with PTSD

A good councillor and HORSES! That’s right these silly animals who fall over their own feet, cost you every penny you have and are scared of their own farts have been my saviour. It’s true what they say #horsesaretherapy Without them I wouldn’t be half as sane as I am, I can’t put my finger on what it is but they just bring light to my life and Colin is doing just that. I’m so lucky that my family and friends have also been ridiculously supportive and even when it gets to this time of year and I just start blurting our to strangers about what’s happened they always manage to say the right things. So get yourself a support crew and it’s okay to cry and eat your feelings, you’re human.